You're at a company party. Or maybe you're at some bar or club with friends. You are sipping on your favorite “christ get me through another night of my friends having a great time and getting hookups while I sit in the corner wiping my forehead” drink when a reasonably attractive gal approaches you.
She’s not asking you why are you're here or will you please stop looking at her tits and ass, but something different. She is introducing herself. She is starting idle conversation…with YOU!
Sure she might seem distracted as she talks to you but this is normal. You are in a club or party remember! At this particular moment there are far more exciting things happening around you two than your micro world.
Now your initial reaction might be, “whoa, she’s drunk.” Or it might be, “yeah baby, another easy piece for the fat guy!” Either way you need to pause and REALLY think about this situation seriously.
If you are the kind of fat guy who is still single and treats a situation like this with over bearing assholeness, then no wonder! Why run to the safety of being the gross, slobbering fat guy in this situation? I know why you do it. It’s a shield so when she says, “no”, or doesn’t call back you feel vindicated. Hey, I’ve done it! It’s not the thing to do my friends.
Okay what about the other type?
You know who you are. You try everything in your feeble powers to make her think you have no interest. Or that you are merely entertaining her while she is distracted by your presence. You never make an attempt to close the deal. She eventually walks away and most likely thinks you're gay or you live with your mother. (either might be true but have no relevance in this particular article)
I have to tell both fat guy types the same thing…EMBRACE THE HOTNESS! Shut up and listen to what she has to say. Answer questions honestly (unless you really are burying dead bodies in your back yard) and show legitimate interest. Do not, and I mean absolutely do not let your own misconceptions of yourself or how you think a situation like this should go rule your responses. She started talking to YOU, remember that!
Often I find that a lot of women are attracted to personality more than appearance. I know that sounds stupid to some but really it is the most untapped resource out there when meeting women. You are your own worst enemy more than anything else. I say this living in Los Angeles for fucks sake!
Now you could be reading this and be saying to yourself, “um dude, yeah I don’t have a problem meeting hot girls, move on...”, well this article is not for you. If you are still reading it then shut off your computer and go do nasty things to your hot girlfriend. This article is for the others. [not to be confused with that bunch of sex starved rag wearing freaks on that island no one can seem to find yet crash in to constantly]
It’s all about making use of those balls between your legs. You have them, they are down there, grab them and get some assertiveness. Just do it without being an asshole. I know you can, I have, and I am the biggest asshole I know.
